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A positive(ish) update

daves funeral display

Well, we made it up to Maryland for the funeral. The funeral was heartbreaking and yet humorous. The only consolation with this thing and China, was the box he came home in was pretty.

My father in law and mother in law set up the church. Hubby’s brother gave an emotional eulogy, it was funny and touching. There were ripples of laughter followed by tears, the music was beautiful, the church was beautiful. It was hard to deal with…

The celebration of life and party the next night was better. People sat and talked about hubby. The music was loud, just the type of music hubby loved. The food was great and it was handled by hubby’s brother John. There was a live band and little time to share stories and at first, it wasn’t what I had envisioned or what I wanted but as I looked around at everyone talking, laughing, singing… connecting, I realized hubby would have been happy with it. That made it okay.

Now, I am home. Trying to pick up my shattered pieces, trying to figure out what to do next. What job to pursue, where to live… I finally got a death certificate (Friday the 29th) and can start handling insurance claims.

I got to see and reconnect with some old family friends… and old friends. I got to take my son to see places that were important to me and hubby. Where hubby proposed, where my son came home from the hospital. His old school… we did get to have the meat sauce pizza from Pizza John’s like hubby had wanted. It was DELICIOUS… I’ll get the photos off my phone and share them as soon as I can.



7 thoughts on “A positive(ish) update”

  1. The funeral and celebration of life party sound lovely. I understand part of it was difficult but we all need closure and now it’s over. I felt that way when we had my parents funerals. After closure, you can begin the next phase of your life. It’s one of the steps we need to get better.and go on. Bless you and your son. ❤ — Suzanne

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  2. Every little step is a step forward. I remember the tea party after my Dad’s funeral, and all his male friends sharing stories and jokes, and I realised with joy how much he would have enjoyed being there with them, but I also felt great sadness that he wasn’t there.

    I’m so glad you were able to show your son places that meant a lot to you and your Hubby. This will also help the healing process for both of you. I wish you well. Keep taking deep breaths and pace yourself through this process. In many ways the worst part of the ordeal is over, but there will still be sadness and loneliness that will strike when you least expect it, and as long as you know that this is normal, you will be able to get through each day as it happens.

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  3. In many ways I can imagine it was touching, and still meant a lot to you and your family – to celebrate life! Your husbands AND your life!! I know words are not enough, but please be ensured my thoughts and prayers are with you!

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