A good answer on how to deal with grief…

Well, since I’ve been experiencing this for the past 6 months, I can say that the old guy doesn’t exactly explain HOW to deal with grief, he does form a very good analogy. I think he missed an important part of the “shipwreck” and that is the part where you’re wondering… WTF just happened? How did I end up in the water and the desperate grab for making some kind of sense of the wreckage? The frantic scrambling of trying to gather your scattered ship and important things.

Some days I’m still in the WTF stage, some days I’m in the clinging to everything and never knowing what will trigger a wave. Most recently it was Thanksgiving… then putting up the tree and “All I want for Christmas, is you.” By Mariah Carey came on and I was a mess. Now it’s husband’s birthday on Monday, I’m struggling again, then it’s Christmas.

This year has been one ball of SUCK… and will apparently end with more sucking as I’m to0 busy trying to keep bills paid to even think about putting anything under a tree.

Maybe next year…



Published by: Kawanee Hamilton

Kawanee was born in Alexandria Louisiana but her first real memories are of Russellville Arkansas. She's always loved to read, and has always had an vivid imagination. She grew up in a house where almost everyone read, they didn't need a TV although she could still be found planted on her butt in front of her grandma's TV watching cartoons on Saturday mornings. She made up her first story with her mother when her cat died; it was about where pets go when they die. She continued to create stories from bad dreams she had and her dad would help her change nightmares to stories. They would sit up in a chair until the scary went away. He told her that: "Dreams, good or bad, are just stories your mind makes up. You are the author of your dreams; if you don't like them rewrite them. " She was hooked and has continued to read and write stories drawing from dreams, sights and just pure imagination. She just recently decided she'd like to try and get published and fail than wonder what if. Her story continues but where it goes from here is up to you, the Reader... She hopes you'll join her in finding out where her journey goes from here!

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12 thoughts on “A good answer on how to deal with grief…”

  1. Keep hanging in there. It’s really hard but you’re doing as well as can be expected for the short time it’s been. Think of all you’ve accomplished in that time. Just take it day by day as that’s about all anyone can handle. Holidays are hard. Everyone agrees with that. Judging by how well you’ve done I feel sure you’ll make it. My prayers are still with you. ❤ — Suzanne

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  2. Those triggers will keep coming for a while, Kawanee. Not all, but some, you will be able to anticipate, and make sure that you take special care of yourself at those times. Honor your needs. There is, unfortunately, no perfect or painless way to do this. When I was counseling families dealing with loss, one message was that this isn’t an experience that you can go around, over, or under; the journey to recovery is through it. Each day, each tear is a step toward integration and ultimate healing. My thoughts are with you during this tough time of year. ❤

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