Writing tip #2 from Neil Gaiman

Start telling the stories that only you can tell, because there’ll always be better writers than you and there’ll always be smarter writers than you. There will always be people who are much better at doing this or doing that — but you are the only you. ― Neil Gaiman


Well, Mr. Gaiman, I can’t argue with this at all. It’s actually quite smart and some of the best advice I can think of someone giving me or anyone else. Well done. 🙂

I saw something that said something along the lines of, everyone lives in their own world and it revolves around them. If I was a smarter person I might look for deeper meaning than what I have come up with.  I’ll tell you what I took away from that.

Everybody sees things differently, from a different perspective, and because they do they live in a different universe. And when we pass away, an entire universe dies with us. Which is cool and sad at the same time. Maybe a little profound.

A story I like to tell is how I was standing outside of a hotel with my aunt and her teenage children. They were getting ready to go in for the night and I was leaving but we got caught up in goodbyes and were talking. We were all looking over at the department store and only inches from each other when there was an accident at the light.

As witnesses, we had to wait for the police to arrive and we started to discuss what happened. All four of us saw it, and we all had different perspectives of who was at fault and why. I said the car was at fault because they ran the red light and hit the semi-truck. The truck was already in the intersection and the car struck the trailer of the truck. That could only happen if the truck had passed the car already, so it meant and I saw the car hit the truck.

My aunt said that the truck ran the red light and hit the car. And her two kids had differing opinions as well.

All of us were telling the truth as we saw and interpreted it.

The bottom line of it is, no one tells exactly the same story, you are the only person who can tell your story.

So I’ll say: Keep this in mind, tell your story and don’t worry about someone else being better at it. (I know, it’s easier said than done and I struggle with self-doubt too.) No one else can tell the story and see the characters the way you do. It’s an extremely personal thing to share with someone. Maybe that’s why I can Bellydance in front of a crowd, I can talk and sing in front of a crowd with barely a qualm, but the idea of sharing my stories and submitting them to a publisher is terrifying.

The first time I sent Nwa Pante out, I was a nervous wreck. I told my husband that I had such anxiety that it was almost like they were coming to my house to shoot me instead of just saying no.

The second time was easier, but I haven’t’ done it a third time, well because BS happens. I will do it as soon as I get done editing it and getting it as perfect as I can. (That’s a call back of the last tip I posted.)

So what are you hanging around here for? Shoo! Go out there and tell your best story.

It’s 3am and I’m going to bed
Your sleepy Kaw.

PS. Tomorrow/ later today I’ll give you the latest on the job search and other stuff. 🙂 Have a great day/night whenever you are. 🙂 Y’all are awesome,




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